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[awhyzip]

Ok, that's it. It's time to find a better living situation. I said 3 month trial, and it's been 7, but I recognize that I'm not going to make this work. I'm not urgently escaping, but I am commencing to look for a new apartment, the sooner available the better.

Housemate & I had another talking-in-circles session, again about having guests over. Coordinating plans & respecting a fixed curfew, I'll do. I though we'd settled this and that it was working agreeably. Apparently not/no longer. Well, I'm not willing to feel like I have to beg permission --- and forgiveness --- each time.

To top it off, she complained that she feels uncomfortable with the unknown people trooping in and out all night. If that were based in fact, I ought to be concerned about respecting that it's her home too ... but in reality I've hardly even had anyone inside the doors in a month or two! (Other than one regularly-repeating evening with a single guest, who she avers is no bother.) True, I was planning to put up an overnight guest twice these two weeks, neither of whom she's ever met, but a) that hadn't taken place yet, and b) they both bailed, so it's pretty moot isn't it?

As long as we were making progress in developing a workable system, I was letting her mishugas slide off my back (as best I could) and trying to avoid being impatient & antagonistic. It seemed to me that she unexpectedly started over from square one today. That, I'm not willing to make myself do again.


So if you have any leads for Boston-area apartments, please let me know. I need to do some calculating and draw up a budget, and think about desiderata.

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[cos]

She was really strange to be around. I wasn't sure if it was just me. It felt like she radiated a need for some sort of connection or relationship with whoever was in the house. Simply doing my own thing, on my own, disconnectedly from her, wasn't an option - it made her uncomfortable. Even if I just stayed in your room.

[awhyzip.livejournal.com]

that's weird, because usually she seems to force the disconnection. i think she assumes that any social event is mutually exclusive with any other use of the house. ie me having a friend over means she is banished from all public areas and restricted to her bedroom. which just ain't how i see life.
she's nervous around people, i think. or maybe, just around young people.

[kalessin.livejournal.com]

She gives me a case of the heebie-jeebies, and she positively radiates: "I have issues."

I think you might do okay moving into another roommate situation, but find someone without these kinds of issues and you'll be happier.

But definitely, yeah, time to move.